A safe space to be heard
I qualified on a BACP accredited course and I am a member of their organisation. If you want to know more about my qualifications and training, follow the link to “About Me”.
I often work with clients who are experiencing feelings they are struggling to cope with. Some have feelings of isolation, abandonment or a sense of deep longing; feelings of panic or heightened anxiety; insomnia or disturbed sleep patterns; recurring dreams; mood swings; unexplained aches and chronic pain.
Many of my clients have suffered past loss. Loss encompasses bereavement; loss of freedom; traumatic loss; anticipating your own death or the death of a loved one; losing the future you expected or hoped for; loss of self or a sense of your own identity; losing self esteem; loss of a relationship and many, many more examples. Painful events in life result in feelings such as grief, anxiety, shame, guilt, anger, fear and sadness, which can feel overwhelming at times.
In addition, I have a special interest in neonatal & postnatal loss and working with parents and grandparents who have suffered the trauma of a child dying. I support the work of Freddie’s Wish and have a number of fully and part funded places available to bereaved family members, when applied for via their website (see resources page).
I work with adults and offer online video sessions via Zoom (nationwide), walk & talk therapy on the beach and face to face sessions in a closed room setting in Middleton-on-Sea.
Please call me for a free confidential chat about how we can work together.
My World view
I value kindness, honesty, personal integrity, connection, compassion and relationship. I believe that people can be empowered to thrive after life events have impacted them adversely. Above all, I believe that when we feel healthy, resilient and connected, the world becomes a safer place.
Initial Contact: We may exchange emails or you can contact me by phone. I suggest we speak (free of charge) for about 20-30 minutes. Initially, we’ll establish if I am the right counsellor for you. If I’m not, I will signpost you to someone that is better suited to help.
Assessment Session: £25 for 50 minutes. We will appraise your life, experiences and what brings you to counselling.
Subsequent Sessions: £45 for 50 minutes.
Sessions are on a one-to-one basis. I am currently working with clients by Zoom (Online video service). Walk & talk therapy on the beach / face to face work may be options for clients who live within travelling distance of Middleton-on-Sea. There is off road parking at my home office.
A Safe Space – A Listening Space
Counselling is a talking therapy. A counsellor will not impose their opinion or advice on you and therapy is not like a chat with a mate. As a profession we help our clients to understand themselves better and find healthy coping mechanisms.
In other words, together we work towards you experiencing life in greater balance.
Maybe you have no one to talk to, even people with supportive family and friends can find it difficult to talk to loved ones and can feel isolated. Maybe you feel overwhelmed by sadness? Alternatively, you may feel angry or anxious? Some people experience physical symptoms such as palpitations, sleep issues, panic attack, chronic pain, stress headaches or signs they associate with stress, anxiety or grief. I listen without judgement, will help you to regulate your feelings and physical reactions and provide a space where you can feel healthy again.
A client’s perspective of therapy
“Over a 5 year period I thought I had found a way to survive day to day with the burden of grief from the loss of my son to cancer (words removed to ensure client anonymity). To the outside world I was coping amazingly well – people would say “you are so strong – I don’t know how you do it” – of course you don’t have a choice.
I suppressed the emotions related to the loss and focused on trying to live for the here and now and keep some element of normality going for my other amazing children. At times I couldn’t keep it suppressed – anniversaries, birthdays, mother’s day – on these occasions, and during the run up to them, my grief would becoming all-consuming and overwhelming. It would completely floor me. And sleeping was a real problem. When trying to get to sleep my brain couldn’t keep out the demons like it could during the day and the only way to get to sleep was by drinking alcohol or taking a sleeping tablet.
In the space of 8 sessions with Helen, I am feeling like a significantly different person (although I am still very fond of my wine!). The grief is still there, of course. I think of my son constantly and miss him desperately. But somehow the counselling has allowed this to integrate into my day to day living and it is a calmer grief, a more accepting grief. Helen has helped me unravel many knots in my head – particularly around guilt and obligations that had become quite obsessive. Helen taught me I need to put my own oxygen mask on first and I am learning to live by this and not feel guilty for taking some time for myself. I feel both physically and mentally so much stronger than I have since his death.
I felt so safe talking to Helen. Her warmth and genuine care shone through. I have taken lots of notes of the ‘nuggets’ that came out of our sessions and will refer back to them in the future if I feel I am going off track.
I really can’t thank Helen enough for helping me transition to a much better place. I will always be a bereaved, grieving mother but one that is much more equipped to cope with carrying this throughout my life in a much healthier way.“