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Counselling is not the only option when you need extra support. You have various resources available to you, in order to survive your struggles and thrive. On this page you will find some of those resources.


The following charities provide valuable support in the UK:

Samaritans – When you urgently need someone to talk to – Call 116 123

Freddie’s Wish – Support if you have suffered the death of a baby or child. Partners with MDD First Aid who provide paediatric first aid training

Child Bereavement UK – Support Line – Call 0800 02 888 40

The LOLA project – Support for families after losing a baby

Downs Syndrome Association – Helpline +44 (0)333 1212 300

Silverline – free confidential helpline providing information, friendship and advice to older people, open 24 hours a day, every day of the year – 0800 4 70 80 90

Daisy Chain Project – Free legal advice and support for anyone impacted by domestic abuse


Preventing suicide –

Domestic Abuse – Search for DAIS in your App Store

Meditation for beginners –

Sleep & restfulness –

Binaural Beats to cope with daily stress and heal after trauma –

Nature Sounds for Relaxation –

Anxiety, panic attack, worry – DARE –


The following books have been categorised to reflect the type of content. I recommend you follow the links and read more to make an informed choice about their suitability for you. If you have read a great book that has helped you, I would love to hear about it. Send me an email via

Facing Death

Shaking Hands with Death – Terry Pratchett (published by Corgi)

With the End in Mind – Kathyrn Mannix (published by William Collins)


Surviving the Tsunami of Grief – Katrina Taee & Wendelien McNicholl (published by NewAct)

You’ll Get Over It – Virginia Ironside (published by Penguin Books)

Levels of Life – Julian Barnes (published by Vintage)

Living a Whole & Healthy Life

Lost Connections – Johann Hari (published by Bloomsbury)

A Manual for Heartache – Cathy Rentzenbrink (published by Pan Macmillan)

Counselling for Toads – Robert de Board (published by Routledge)

Born to Win – Muriel James & Dorothy Jongeward (published by DeCapo Press)

So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed – Jon Ronson (Published by Pan Macmillan)

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – Susan Jeffers (published by Ebury)

Who Moved My Cheese? An Amazing Way To Deal With Change – Dr Spencer Johnson (published by Ebury)

Feel better in Five : Your Daily Plan to Feel Great for Life – Dr Rangan Chatterjee (Published by Penguin Life)

Pain is Really Strange – Steve Haines (Published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers)

Suicidal thoughts

Reasons to Stay Alive – Matt Haig ( Published by Canon Gate)

Trauma and recovery

The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma – Bessel van der Kolk (Published by Penguin Books)

Trauma is Really Strange – Steve Haines and Sophie Standing (Published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers)


Hope, death and living life

Inside Out” by Pixar – Coming to terms with change and loss is tough. This is a family film which explains the biological purpose of our feelings in a fun adventure. (Family Viewing)

Up” by Pixar – We see loss in many forms in this movie, the loss of a child, of dreams, of a life unlived and of the death of a best friend. This movie is all about finding hope and making sense of the ‘new normal’. Sound heavy? Be prepared to laugh, to feel the warm glow of hope and to cry happy tears at the end. (Family Viewing)

After Life” – This is a dark comedy that takes a serious look at life after the death of a loved one. Written, directed and starring Ricky Gervais. (Adult Viewing Only)

Please Note: I have used these Apps, read these books and watched these films. I have found them to be useful, informative or enjoyable – That does not mean I believe they are right for you. We are autonomous and unique so we will like different things. Do your research and make an informed choice. If you want to speak to me, confidentially, then send me a message by following this link

I wish you health and happy reading/listening/breathing/watching

Alternative Skillsets

When you are looking for a counsellor it is important that you find the right fit for you. There may be some phrase on a counsellor’s website that resonates with you. Or they may have specific skills and training that you want (in counselling jargon this is called a competency). The counsellors I describe below have different skillsets to me, work in a different way, work with couples or children and have special interests that might fit better with your needs.

Sybina Illsley trained as a Humanistic Integrative Counsellor (Gestalt, TA and Person Centred). She is attuned to the importance of race, culture, beliefs, values, attitudes, religion & language in the life of her clients. She runs an LGBTQ+ friendly practice and works with Adults in Chailey, Brighton, Horsham and online.

Shelley Taylor is a Psychotherapeutic Counsellor who works with over 18s & couples. She has undertaken specialist training in trauma, abuse, mindfulness, couples therapy, body psychotherapy/body listening. Shelley works in Littlehampton either outdoors, in her therapy room, via telephone or online .

Niall Crawley-Moore works with adults (individuals and couples) in Hartfield, East Sussex. He specialises in substance misuse and trauma. He has a broad depth of working with people who have encountered psychological, physical and sexual abuse. Niall is a humanistic practitioner and is trained in the use of EMDR.

Anne Davies is trained in Transactional Analysis. Transactional Analysis (TA) is a theory of personality and systemic psychotherapy for personal change and growth (you can learn more about TA by looking at the In A Nutshell Series on my Blog). Anne works with couples and individuals in Horsham and also online.

Linda Doughty works from her office in Crossbush, between Arundel and Littlehampton. In addition to her private practice she works in schools and for companies offering Employee Assisted Programs (EAP). She works with children, young people and adults (individuals and couples).

Nigel Spencer is a LGBTQ+ affirmative counsellor working in private practice in Kemptown, Brighton and online. He is particularly drawn to Gestalt therapy and the emphasis on the importance of the body, feelings and the present moment.

Bex Simpson-Ryan specialises in Neurodiversity and has lived experience of the challenges of living and conforming (or not)in a society that is built around being neurotypical. Bex is an activist against all forms of ‘otherness’ and sees clients all over the country via Zoom and face-to-face at her practice in Bishop Auckland.

“You are every age you have ever been. Every experience you have ever had exists within you. And you have the resources available to you in order to survive your struggles and thrive”
Helen Clarke, 2020