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Counselling is not the only option when you need extra support. You have various resources available to you, in order to survive your struggles and thrive. On this page you will find some of those resources.

If you are struggling to understand what your body and mind is experiencing, I hope this very short presentation might help you to find some answers Presentation : The Four F’s

Reach Out

Samaritans – When you urgently need someone to talk to – Call 116 123

GriefChat – A free online service providing instant access to trained bereavement counsellors Mon-Fri 09:00 – 21:00 GMT https://griefchat.co.uk/chat/

Freddie’s Wish – Support for parents and relatives after the death of a child, of any age. https://freddieswish.org/about/

Child Bereavement UK – Support Line – Call 0800 02 888 40

The LOLA project – Support for families after losing a baby https://lossofalovedarrival.com/

Downs Syndrome Association – Helpline +44 (0)333 1212 300

Silverline – free confidential helpline providing information, friendship and advice to older people, open 24 hours a day, every day of the year – 0800 4 70 80 90

Daisy Chain Project – Free legal advice and support for anyone impacted by domestic abuse https://www.thedaisychainproject.com/

Apps

Preventing suicide – https://www.prevent-suicide.org.uk/find-help-now/stay-alive-app/

Domestic Abuse – Search for DAIS in your App Store

Meditation for beginners – https://www.stopbreathethink.com/meditations/

Sleep & restfulness – https://www.calm.com/

Binaural Beats to cope with daily stress and heal after trauma – https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.bcp.apps.brainwavetherapy&hl=en&gl=US

Nature Sounds for Relaxation – http://www.naturespace.org/

Anxiety, panic attack, worry – DARE – https://dareresponse.com/

Books

The following books have been categorised to reflect the type of content. I recommend you follow the links and read more to make an informed choice about their suitability for you. If you have read a great book that has helped you, I would love to hear about it. Send me an email via helen@safespacesussex.co.uk

Facing Death

Shaking Hands with Death – Terry Pratchett (published by Corgi)

With the End in Mind – Kathyrn Mannix (published by William Collins)

Bereavement

Surviving the Tsunami of Grief – Katrina Taee & Wendelien McNicholl (published by NewAct)

You’ll Get Over It – Virginia Ironside (published by Penguin Books)

Levels of Life – Julian Barnes (published by Vintage)

Shattered ~ Surviving the Loss of a Child – Gary Roe (published by HRP)

Living a Whole & Healthy Life

Lost Connections – Johann Hari (published by Bloomsbury)

A Manual for Heartache – Cathy Rentzenbrink (published by Pan Macmillan)

Living an Examined Life – James Hollis (published by Sounds True Inc)

Counselling for Toads – Robert de Board (published by Routledge)

Born to Win – Muriel James & Dorothy Jongeward (published by DeCapo Press)

So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed – Jon Ronson (Published by Pan Macmillan)

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – Susan Jeffers (published by Ebury)

Who Moved My Cheese? An Amazing Way To Deal With Change – Dr Spencer Johnson (published by Ebury)

Feel better in Five : Your Daily Plan to Feel Great for Life – Dr Rangan Chatterjee (Published by Penguin Life)

Pain is Really Strange – Steve Haines (Published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers)

Suicidal thoughts

Reasons to Stay Alive – Matt Haig ( Published by Canon Gate)

Trauma and recovery

The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma – Bessel van der Kolk (Published by Penguin Books)

Trauma is Really Strange – Steve Haines and Sophie Standing (Published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers)

Film

Hope, death and living life

Inside Out” by Pixar – Coming to terms with change and loss is tough. This is a family film which explains the biological purpose of our feelings in a fun adventure. (Family Viewing)

Up” by Pixar – We see loss in many forms in this movie, the loss of a child, of dreams, of a life unlived and of the death of a best friend. This movie is all about finding hope and making sense of the ‘new normal’. Sound heavy? Be prepared to laugh, to feel the warm glow of hope and to cry happy tears at the end. (Family Viewing)

After Life” – This is a dark comedy that takes a serious look at life after the death of a loved one. Written, directed and starring Ricky Gervais. (Adult Viewing Only)

A Beautiful Day In The Neighbourhood” – A Tom Hanks film about family, anger and the impact compassion can have on others and ourselves. (Suitable for Teenagers & Adults)

Please Note: I have used these Apps, read these books and watched these films. I have found them to be useful, informative or enjoyable – That does not mean I believe they are right for you. We are autonomous and unique so we will like different things. Do your research and make an informed choice. If you want to speak to me, confidentially, then send me a message by following this link https://safespacesussex.co.uk/contact/

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Alternative Skillsets

When you are looking for a counsellor it is important that you find the right fit for you. There may be some phrase on a counsellor’s website that resonates with you. Or they may have specific skills and training that you want (in counselling jargon this is called a competency). The counsellors I describe below have different skillsets to me, work in a different way, work with couples or children and have special interests that might fit better with your needs.

Pascale Palazzo is a specialist in compulsive eating, overeating disorders and obesity. She runs an online clinic working with adults in the UK whose relationship with food gets in the way of living a fulfilled life. https://www.healingcravings.co.uk/

Kaye Esser works with individuals & couples suffering addiction, domestic violence, bereavement and issues around food & eating. She works online and in person at her home office in Horsham https://kayeessercounselling.co.uk/

Sybina Illsley is attuned to the importance of race, culture, beliefs, values, attitudes, religion & language in the life of her clients. She runs an LGBTQ+ friendly practice and works with Adults in Chailey, Brighton, Horsham and online https://sybinaillsleycounselling.co.uk/

Shelley Taylor works with over 18s & couples. Her specialist training includes trauma, abuse and body psychotherapy/body listening. Based in Littlehampton, she works outdoors, in her therapy room, via telephone or online https://www.shelleytaylorcounsellor.uk/

Niall Crawley-Moore specialises in substance misuse & trauma, and works with people who have encountered psychological, physical & sexual abuse. Niall is an EMDR practitioner https://www.ashdowncounselling.co.uk/

Nigel Spencer is a LGBTQ+ affirmative counsellor working in Kemptown, Brighton and online. He is particularly drawn to Gestalt therapy with emphasis on how the body and feelings manifest in the present moment. https://www.nigelspencercounselling.co.uk/

“You are every age you have ever been. Every experience you have ever had exists within you. And you have the resources available to you in order to survive your struggles and thrive”
Helen Clarke, 2020